“An Ohio mother is speaking out after she says her 10-year-old daughter was bullied at school because she cut her hair short to donate it to charity.”
I just read this news item and I thought, maybe, I had misinterpreted it? I mean, I know I can read and all, but um, what?!
An Ohio mother is speaking out after she says her 10-year-old daughter was bullied at school because she cut her hair short to donate it to charity.
Fox 45 reported Tuesday that Jetta Fosburg decided on her own to cut 14 inches off of her long blonde hair and donate it to Wigs for Kids, a charity that helps children with cancer and other hair loss issues.
“I have some family members who have cancer so I thought it was the right thing to do,” Jetta told Fox 45.
However, her mother Heidi Fosburg told the station that ever since Jetta cut her hair, “things have not been good.” Fosburg pulled her daughter out of her school, Pathway School of Discovery in Dayton, after she said Jetta was bullied about her short hair.
“They said things like she wants to be a boy, she’s ugly now, a lot of hurtful things,” Fosburg told Fox 45.
Fosburg said she took her concerns to her daughter’s teacher, and filled out a bullying report. Although the school promised to address the issue, she said the bullying continued. She also contacted the principal, who she said told her to “tough it out,” according to Fox 45.
“And (he) told me that he didn’t know of any child that had ever died from words. And that we needed to toughen up and deal with it, and he would deal with it how he saw appropriate, which was obviously not the response we were looking for,” Fosburg told WHIO.
National Heritage Academies, which runs Pathway School of Discovery, told WHIO in a statement that they are investigating the case after a complaint was filed. Read more here.
Dear Jetta and Heidi Fosburg,
Good for you. Good for you for standing up and doing what’s right. Regardless. I wish we had more people like you on the planet.
I have a 10 year-old daughter and I know that it is challenging to be a kid these days. Individuality is not always as celebrated as we would like or expect. Often times, being unique means being the odd one out.
Conformity allows for security. If everyone is the same, then no one sticks out. No one challenges beliefs. No one upsets the balance of things. The ones in power to “deal with it how he (saw) appropriate” remain in power. The ones that don’t fit in, don’t get to make the rules.
Well I have something to say about that.
Conformity is just “yielding to group pressures” (Crutchfield, 1955). Group pressure, rarely positive, leads to bullying, persuasion, teasing, criticism etc.
My question is: who wants to be a part of a group that bullies and teases? Who makes other people feel small so they can feel big?
All the things you’ve experienced since you did exactly what you thought was a noble, honorable thing to do. Donate your hair to Wigs For Kids.
Just so I’m clear, you were bullied because you donated your beautiful hair to a charity that helps children with cancer and other hair loss issues?
I read that right? Right?
Sorry to belabor the message, but it seems otherworldly unreasonable that you would be bullied and mocked and left unsupported by the school administration, for committing the honorable act of donating your hair.
He probably needs to go into a line of work that doesn’t require people skills. Pronto.
This is a learning opportunity for everyone. Most of all you.
As an organization, you are looking at instituting a zero tolerance policy with all 80 of your schools, at the very least.
What would happen if one family from every school you operate withdrew in one day because of your insensitivity to this issue? Then again the next day? And the next?
People do not mess around when it comes to the safety and security of their children. They get all crazy warrior parent. I know. I’m one of them.
You have a scandal on your hands and it is far from being “handled” as Olivia Pope says.
My professional advice would be to set up college scholarship fund in Jetta Fosburg’s name, for a student every year who exemplifies the spirit of compassion and tolerance.
Something your organization apparently needs a little extra tutoring on.
As a mom, my personal advice for the children who did the mocking is simple – you know better than that.
Your behavior is disappointing, but you are just kids.
That doesn’t excuse the behavior but you should not be attacked. Even if you don’t fight fair.
Again, you’re just kids.
That kind of intolerance comes from somewhere, though. You’re learning it from someone or many people.
And for that, I’m sorry. I’m sorry for you. That’s a hard way to live.
It’s probably too late for them, but it’s not too late for you.
Do better. You deserve better and so does everyone else.
Leading with kindness and compassion is always the way. It is always the path to fulfillment. It is unfortunate that this path is often marred with hardships. It is easier to just fit in.
It’s easier to like the pink princess Barbie dream home. Easier to like the perfect rather than the imperfect. I have found that choosing the extraordinary, rather than the plain ole, same ole, has made all the difference in my life.
I am guided by my heart and then my head. My choices are distinctly my own. It has not always been an easy life, but a life that allows me to know and like who I am.
This is a lesson that most 10 year-old girls do not have to learn until much later in life.
But not you Jetta.
You’re special. You’re unique. You’re you.
And I would be proud if you and my daughter Zoe were friends.
Keep giving them heck Jetta.
We support you. We are proud of you and your mom. We hope that this helps other people in similar situations.